April 6, 2018 at 1:53 p.m.
Men weighing call from God
Those are some of the questions on the minds of 11 men who are discerning their possible call to priesthood through monthly meetings with Rev. James Walsh, a member of the diocesan Vocations Team and associate pastor of St. Thomas the Apostle Church in Delmar.
Each meeting consists of a talk by a diocesan priest on such topics as celibacy, loneliness or a 45-year ministry as a priest; a question-and-answer session; and prayer.
Sex and priests
At a recent discernment meeting at St. Thomas, the men listened to Rev. Anthony Ligato discuss celibacy. The associate pastor of Blessed Sacrament Church in Albany shared how he was 21 when he began thinking about the priesthood and was struggling with celibacy before he even entered the seminary.He was questioning everything at that point in his life and met with his parish priest to discuss his desire to become a priest. But he was secretly hoping that he would be talked out of it.
Young Tony Ligato "went out and purchased all the trappings of someone who was active in society" and tried to convince himself that he wasn't meant to pursue a vocation, but to no avail. "The issues kept nagging at me," he said.
Making the leap
While in the Bahamas for his cousin's wedding, Tony thought about how he had to get back home in time for an ecumenical prayer service for Thanksgiving. That's when he realized that he was being called to become a priest.Tony, who was 24 when he entered the seminary, wasn't thinking about celibacy during his preparation. He had been celibate in his years leading up to the seminary, so celibacy wasn't as difficult for him to follow as he once envisioned.
"Celibacy is about the appropriate nature by which you share yourself with other people. You do have to be available," he said. "It means daily recommitting yourself to the Lord, daily prayer. You can't do it without the grace of God."
Father Ligato receives a lot of support from family as well as from friends who are priests, and he advised the discernment group members to find a spiritual director or join a support group to help them deal with the issue of celibacy if they pursue their priestly calling.
Delicate issue
Mike, a member of the discernment group, asked Father Ligato if priests are attracted to women and whether or not they've felt tempted to break their vow of celibacy. Father Ligato replied that attraction to women doesn't go away once a priest is ordained, but acting on any impulses must be avoided.In that way, the celibate life of a priest is no different than the monogamous lifestyle of a married man, he added.
"We don't act on every attraction we have. An attraction hopefully goes beyond a physical need for being fulfilled," he said. "Married life calls you to a celibacy with that person. We happen to take that vow with God."
Church laws
Another group member, David, asked why Roman Catholic priests must take a vow of celibacy when other Catholic rites and Christian denominations don't require it.Father Walsh pointed out that Roman Catholic priests did marry for the first 1,000 years of the Church, but celibacy became mandatory when Church leaders maintained that if Jesus didn't marry, neither should priests, who take on the person of Christ upon ordination.
Men who are thinking about the priesthood and hoping that celibacy won't be required by the time they're ordained should think again. "You're almost assuring yourself of a miserable existence, and a very sad life and ministry because you're always frustrated. You're always at odds with the Church," Father Ligato said.
Gift of celibacy
He has come to see celibacy as less of a burden and more of a blessing as he's matured as a priest. "What seemed like a sacrifice, the Lord has transformed into something I recognize as a great gift," he said.Father Walsh noted that it's not enough for a priest to be celibate; he also must be happy. "I'm convinced part of the call from God is to be happy; and if you can't be happy, then I'm not sure it's an authentic call," he said.
Being celibate can be difficult, but Father Walsh has found that working out, staying active and having good friends who are priests (and some who aren't) help him keep his vow.
Homosexuality
Asking about homosexuals and how they can be ordained once their sexual orientation is known, Mike questioned whether or not a homosexual priest can be celibate without being chaste. Father Walsh pointed out that whether a seminarian is heterosexual or homosexual, as long as he is not sexually active, he can be ordained."The Church does not use sexuality as a litmus test for ordination. If someone is sexually active, we can't accept you right now," he said. "The Church, diocese and seminary can't help you with self-control."
The difference between celibacy and chastity shouldn't be exploited by homosexuals who think they're following their vow when they aren't, Father Ligato noted. "We're called to not have sexual relationships with anybody," he said.
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